i don't know about anyone else yet it's my experience and observation that in most marriages the Woman is in control. is it a 100% i guess not yet even one's where the woman comes off as the more quiet one often times she controls thru the use of passive-aggressive techniques.
men like to think they're in control but i'd like to suggest it is really 'the illusion of control'.
if you have read my posts over the past 3 years you know that i've already admitted it....alyssa has a thing for Female domination.
the idea that a strong Woman is guiding my life is a powerful force in how i live these days.
for alyssa that strong Woman is Dominatrix Camille. She has taken what once was a curiosity for the Feminine and has made it a central-focus that drives how i live.
thinking about Female domination most males will conjure up images of whip wielding stern looking Women....goodness knows i've put enough of those up in my posts...
the truth is the domination 'we crave' comes thru mental control confirmed by behavioral performance.
Mistress Camille considering it to be a passion loves riding horses...
owning Her own ...i figure if She can control and train a 2,000 pound equine She'll have little issue in educating Her alyssa in the ways of a submissive Woman....
DLC has a way of finding the sweet surrender within Her gurls....that place that speaks to our need to experience the softer side of our nature letting it play out in living a feminine way of life....
the fact that there really can only be one dominant in a relationship it involves letting go of our perception of being the authority figure....
i don't think anyone makes it to Mistress's 'Femdomina' site by accident...there is something within us that is turned on by the idea of being dominated by a Woman...more specifically Dominatrix Camille....while she may have at one time earned Her 'street-cred' learning Her craft in the dungeons of LA and beyond...as far away as the Other World Kingdom in the Czech Republic and elsewhere in Her travels...
the fact is She is very 'down to earth' kind of woman....i would add one who gives back adding to the greater good of society as a whole being in the medical field. She proved this working on the front lines during the covid pandemic having to over-come a serious health issue Herself as a result.
yet make no mistake about it...behind that smile lurks a Woman quite capable of bringing transformation to those that seek Her out.
it is one of Mistress DLC's tenants...and one i would say most married Women implement ....'control the libido of a male and you can lead him in the direction of your choosing'...(luv how the Domina has Her sub in a pair of Women's high heeled leather boots.)
giving up control....thru chastity comes the freedom to explore....
alyssa's very first pic sent to DarkLady Camille
others along the way...
the most recent....having learned men have cocks but DLC gurls have 'clitty's'....and dildos to play with
it's quite simple really and something i have obeyed since beginning.......i only have an orgasm when permitted to by Mistress...
'always' moving in the direction of Her vision Mistress never hesitates in using Her authority over Her garden of gurls blossoming into feminine flowers...
She realizes most of us will never leave Her...we are too far gone in having embraced a feminine world....
what may have started as a curiosity living on the edges....still holding on to elements like having male leg and arm-hair....
the flame lit that initial inquisitiveness soon gives way once we discover how pretty we can be...
the only thing that was holding us back was our own hesitancy ...
we needed to be told it was 'ok' ....it took a Woman like Dominatrix Camille to give us permission...
it's one of the reasons why we become dependent on her...
we recognize and welcome DLC as being the source of auhthority over us...
it is in acknowledging Her power in controlling Her gurls that frees us to be what we've secretly always wanted to be and experience ...
i've come to find that 'ayssa' is far more along the path than i realize at times...
the years of having honed my makeup skills have helped give me a more permanent feminine look to my face even when i'm not wearing any....i once over-heard a bartender tell someone...while i was in boi-mode.... 'he's gorgeous looking'...if only he knew huh....
what i have found is that thanks to Mistress... 'Femininity' has over taken my life....
having said that there is still a part of me that is scared of the changes that are occurring ....for example like having my breasts developing....
truth is as best i can tell thru Mistress DLC's help once we have released the Feminine within us we only want more of it....
the habit of obeying Mistress comes into play when significant crossroads have to be passed....
of course i speaking about being on Female hormones...and the powerful impact they bring with... as for me at times i want them and at others i'm afraid of the results knowing what comes with. having said that i continue to take my regimen of femme-herbals some 22 months in on them. it some way it is 'easing' me closer to 'the point of no return'....
like a nervous secretary....i realize being on hormones is more than just about the physical changes...
there is a mental aspect...being a DLC gurl from day one we are treated as 'Women' by Mistress. i think She does this knowing one day our acquired feminine perspective along with our hormone-based female emotions and mentality will merge with the physical changes...
let's call it what it is.....in dominating us thru Her authority over us..(remember we are being trained as collared slave-gurls) Dominatrix Camille is creating a trans-woman who is submissive in nature with the sexual desires to go with...
chastity cages...ball-gags...slave-collars....self-spankings...all the BDSM practices She has us participate in helps to re-frame our minds into submissive beings...
at the same time DLC has instilled within us an admiration for Women ...not only for 'our' Mistress but for Females as a whole....
Mistress likes to leave her 'mark' in the form of a tattoo on her gurls ....it is a way of demonstrating Her authority over us...
Femininity...under the authority of a Woman...once freed of your own limitations...
it is a feeling you can't let go of...peace, alyssa
As much as the whip or crop can be a motivator, at the core, the desire to please and be accepted by a Woman you admire is the greatest motivator