Throughout the many years of my journey towards sissification, I have seen many different opinions and ideas for what a sissy is, what attributes they must possess, the manner in which they must present themselves etc etc and it is clear to see that this concept is something of a vague and very much varied idea.
I feel that the most important and consistent attribute lies in the nature of submissiveness of sissies, as well as a desire to please and satisfy ones Dominant. In this also lies one of the most dividing inconsistencies which is the gender of the Dominant that it is assumed a sissy must be in the servitude of. On the one hand, there are many hypnotism videos and stories, gifs etc across the breadth of the internet that suggests that all sissies must crave cock; they must crave to be bred, to be used like a little sissy slut for a mans pleasure, to be used like a girl, and that this is the default mindset of a gay little sissy slut. On the other hand, there are many (like myself) who feel that a sissies place is to idolise women (seems fitting given the desire to present ourselves as one!) and to have a fetishized desire to be trated like a little girl by a feminine figure, one who might train and condition us to be somewhat like themselves; to exude our own femininity and to truly endeavour to present ourselves as the best female impersonator that we possibly can. This is where I think the idea of a strict auntie or mothers friend to be the Dominant comes from, and quite understandably so given the erotic nature of such fantasies; coupled with the mature nature of these women is also of appeal given the somewhat “dated” nature of much of what a typical sissies outfit should consist of: petticoats, frilly skirts, ribbons and bows etc. This also leads me towards a very appropriate aspect of defining a sissy, and that is in her apparel.
It is well acknowledged and widely agreed that PINK is the most appropriate colour for a sissy, as well as pastels and other bright yet subtle colours (there’s no denying that the visual stimuli of pretty, girly colours excites me ever so)! The sissy maid dress, in pink, being the stereotypical outfit of choice for a sissy, it also sets a theme for the entire ensemble that a sissy should be adept in putting together for herself and creating variants to keep her look fresh. Frills, ribbons, flouncy cuts, fabrics appealing to both the eyes and the touch, even such nuances as bells, locks etc. All minute aspects of a sissies ensemble should be scrutinised over when designing herself for the pleasure of her Dominant (hereafter referred to as Mistress due to my own personal preference). Presented always in impeccable makeup, styled hair/ wig, high heels and an outfit fit for Mistresses pleasure, a sissy must always present herself with the upmost personal pride.
Beyond just the visual aspect, a sissy must also put much focus into her femininity in terms of her deportment. She must learn to present herself as a LADY: knees together, or crossed when sitting; a suitable yet not overly exaggerated wiggle to her hips when walking; a prim and proper demeanour when addressing others. At least, this is when socialising in general. For the purpose of Mistresses desires however, there are other ways a sissy must learn to present herself, which actually brings me onto another aspect which I feel is potentially a driving factor for many sissies’ desires: humiliation.
There are many levels and manners in which humiliation is a key part of a sissies training and evolution, but I feel the main attribute behind it lies in the emasculation of her. Now this is a very important part of becoming a sissy, as not only does it help to settle her into the feminine role more easily, but it also helps to remove inhibitions and allow for her to rise to the task of becoming a good little sissy pansy. I also feel that it is a most enjoyable factor for Mistress to witness and enjoy, which, after all, is the primary driving force that should be behind a sissies wish to serve. Just think, is there any way you would ever get an alpha male mincing around, tottering in high heels, limp wristed, spinning in a skirt, bending over and spanking to the camera for Mistress? No. But a sissy will happily do it with less than a prompt for the sheer enjoyment to serve and the fluttering feeling inside when she feels pretty and girly like a simpering little sissy pansy! Emasculation, at the very least inside the realm of being directly dominated, is an essential requirement for all sissies to become the prissy little dollies that Mistress loves to see prancing around the room like a little pansy for her. Now, you could easily replace Mistress with Master for your own preference, especially given the greater likelihood of finding men who like sissies in the real world as opposed to women… I have definitely found myself out dressed like a sissy and being approached by men, groped and fondled, finding myself feeling dainty and weak at the knees at the slightest touch on the bottom or kiss on the hand: a real man is definitely a real man when compared to a weak kneed simpering little sissy dressed in all frills and pink with frilly little ankle socks like a little school girl!
The definition of a sissy is a very difficult one to pinpoint to 1 strict idea given the array of attributes that you can exhibit and still fit under the umbrella, but it is very clear to see that a sissy is subservient, and sees themselves as a dainty, pretty little girly thing, much less powerful than both man and woman, and loves every aspect of her place in life <3