if you noticed above i didn't use the term 'men'....instead i wrote 'them'...it is part of the separation process Dominatrix Camille puts Her gurls thru....
She excels at creating a distinction between being our true feminine-selfs and men....much like the difference between being a bride versus a groom...thus when i say 'them' i mean 'men'..
in some ways at this point in our transitioning it doesn't really matter how we've gotten to this perspective at this stage .....what is important is that we are there...
by there i mean seeing ourselves as Women...
sliding in and out slick with lube my dildo felt so nice this morning..lately i've been using one that has a larger girth...a straight man would never say that...i used to think i fit that description of being a straight - heterosexual...Mistress has changed all that...in session work in the past She has had me come right out and say ...more like declare 'i am gay and trans'.... 'and i like cock.'...
I've been taught by DLC to enjoy BDSM in a way that brings health, balance and sexual vigor into my life. This has helped me accept being Her slave gurl means i am part of the alternative sexualities community for both health and for pleasure. as penetration has taken over as my primary form of sexual pleasure i've developed a connection to other gurls.
it is another example of how Mistress has deepened my feminization…it has become a Lifestyle transformation… i work on dieting and weight loss, i regularly go shopping and picking out outfits, makeup and hair-stying have become a natural extension.
it's like some kind of progressive induction has been installed in my mind...one that includes a deepening trigger designed to get stronger over days and months.
i can feel myself being transformed into a female in near every way… physically, mentally and emotionally. it's so familiar it feels as though i’ve always been a woman… deep inside. it has help me to shed my inauthentic masculine exterior. All women are beautiful, and so i believe i am beautiful too.
it is as though Mistress has Installed triggers that are attached to feminine behavior...activity that i am compelled to act out on...in turn it has changed my perspective of myself and further reinforces intuitive feminine suggestions...like i love to be a woman...i only pee sitting down...i wear makeup every time it is reasonable to do so...i shop for and pick out cute outfits as often as possible...
it has altered my own perception of how i see myself and changed the way i physically feel in my body. it is part of the process of removing obstacles to fully embodying my femininity. months turning into years it's like a feminine voice in my head has taken over. it constantly offers suggestions that grow stronger with time and are reinforced by everyday habits…
i came across a piece on how a Woman has turned her once independent-minded husband and former breadwinner into her submissive girlfriend....Alexa Martinez is a writer and blogger who has released several novels on the topic of FLRs and forced feminisation under the pen name of Lady Alexa. Alexa's blog at www.ladyalexauk.com covers the aspects of living an FLR relationship in the real world.
She has written a book on his transformation...as i said...her name is Alexa Martinez...her husbands?...well i'll let Lady Alexa tell the story...
An updated 2022 version of the true story of how the author, Alexa Martinez, feminized her husband and built a wife led relationship. Alexa explains how she took control of their relationship and introduced a sometimes reluctant husband to a life of femininity and obedience. What began as an exciting bedroom game exploded into a program of encouraged feminisation and female leadership of their relationship.
Their marriage continues to be loving and affectionate.
The book describes Alexa's reasons and beliefs that guided her to take this path and the tactics she employed to turn an unaware husband into her girl named alice.
Although Alice has come to accept her new status as a sissy girl and now enjoys it, they haven't yet come out of the closet entirely. Alexa writes about some of the barriers they continue to face and how she will work to overcome them and also how she wants to deepen Alice's feminization and submission further still.
She describes what it is that she expects from an FLR relationship and the advantages of feminizing men....below is a link to her blog...
..."making my girl do the same thing over and over is my standard method of training. Social conditioning will have conditioned their minds to one way of behavior. This has to be broken down and replaced by new behaviors. It takes time. One example is sitting style. Men tend to throw themselves down and sit with their legs apart so it needs to be changed. Occasionally, I will make Alice practice several times putting herself down in a delicate way and sitting with her knees together, legs to one side. Other repetition activities include curtseying and walking like a girl...
..."since i don't allow alice to cum anymore i am training her to become accustomed to not orgasm. i need her clitty hard for long periods for my enjoyment. i have added daily sessions where she has to bring herself to the point then stop. the daily edging sessions have already extended the time she can last. i make her get to the edge, calm down then start again. she will do this several times in one session. it's becoming natural.
...I am training and conditioning alice to be prepared for the day when she has sex with other sissies under my supervision. she will not be permitted to cum of course although the other sissy girl will.
more from Lady Alexa...
"my husband adam is my girl. i wrote husband but what i meant was answering to the name alice 'she' is a housewife in the old fashioned sense of the word. i also mean girl as a gender. i have uses for the still functioning vestige of 'her' former gender. i didn't start out with the idea of feminizing my husband. tho i have always been a dominant Lady and have always led my relationships. i was never in the Femdom scene or any other fetish scene.
when we first met he was a successful businessman working for a major company. he was confident articulate independent and assertive tho he was always sensitive and once in awhile would have nights out with the boys. being 100% heterosexual now that he is a girl i want to change that. i want her to have new experiences.
what was it that made me change this tall slim assertive business man into an obedient housewife and submissive girl? why have i renamed him alice? why do i call him a girl and refer to him as she or her? why do i insist she wears a skirt and dress at home and panties and bra at all times? and why did i do this when i was faced with a sometimes strong resistance from him to be feminized? it has taken a considerable effort on my part to turn him into a girl.
i wanted to break down the artificial social rules. i believe i have released him from the expectations and pressures of men within our society. i came to believe he 'needed' to be feminized and this would be good for her and me.
indeed he is now far better off and happier as an obedient girl. the expectations of manhood have been stripped away forever. he would also be the first to admit that he now has the benefit of wearing much nicer clothing and lingerie while using beauty products.
the benefits to any woman taking control in this way are obvious and immense. i now have someone to not only maintain the home as a submissive housewife but also someone who does all i want. i find my housewife's body more attractive now that i've removed her masculinity. i insist alice wear very short skirts and fine stockings. i want to look at her legs it is a pleasure for me. at times i want her exposed as i bathe in the pleasures of the ultimate control this demonstrates. her underwear is feminine pretty, small and revealing. she always wears a bra.
our journey isn't complete and i still have some changes to make. i want to increase my control and increase alice's feminization and submission.
we'll close with former men that have succumbed to femininity.....with all its trappings...
i liked how Lady Alexa said there is more to do...
that Her housewife alice can become even more feminine...even more submissive...sounds like what Mistress DarkLady continues doing with me....Her gurl.
bonus: pet ownership
....the link below is of a conversation on Talking Matriarchy.com with Dominatrix Ezada and a former man turned lovely transgendered......if i have it right 10 years earlier he ventured into a London pub where he ended up connecting with the Woman that would come to 'own' him....Mistress Ava Von Medicine...She has renamed "her gurl' turned pet...'mir sher'...that is Egyptian for 'kitten'...
Very Beautiful Post 💋